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- Flirt with someone new and sext with words only.
- Play the exhibitionist and invite a friend to watch you have sex with a partner or
- What’s the most number of orgasms you can have in a day?
All you need to do is devote a day (holiday/weekend) to giving yourself the most orgasms you can get in a day. Call it a self-pleasure marathon. Make use of erotica, porn, pleasure products, your fingers, pillows, shower head, fleshlight, or whatever can keep you in a highly aroused state to see how far your body can take you.
- Reenact a sex scene from Game of
- Use a dating app and have a one-time fling with a new person.
- Push the envelope a little and explore sex with more than one person (threesomes, foursomes, etc.).
- Swing with another couple (exchange partners in the same space and give each other pleasure).
- Buy a new vibrator and explore pleasing each other with
- Explore a very seductive, Sexy Santa role play session of Christmas Day. Get costumes for it!
- Have sex in a car and a new hotel you’ve never been to.
Dos & Donts Of Holiday Hookups
Where are you spending your Christmas holidays? At home? In Ghana? In a different city? In a partner’s vagina or arms?
Holidays are the most exciting times of the year. The adrenaline rush and euphoria from seeing Christmas trees and lights everywhere, foreigners, and beautiful people who are so happy and looking forward to having a good time are out of this world.
This holiday season is a great time to let loose and immerse yourself deeply in sexual pleasure. Let your body and overall wellbeing benefit from the happy hormones released when you get pleasure and/or orgasms. Endorphins relieve stress and pain for relaxation. Oxytocin improves the connection and bond you have with other people, family, friends, partners, etc. Prolactin gives you a sense of satisfaction from a sexual experience. Dopamine makes you feel great and How much sex are you trying to have this season? Engage yourself (self-pleasure), talk to new people, explore your sexual fantasies, try new things, use dating apps, and have sex for the sake of having it (pleasure, transactional, fun, tend to your sexual needs, etc.)?
Let the holiday bliss fuel your passion for pleasure this season, but keep these do’s and don’ts of holiday hookups in mind to stay sane, healthy, and happy:
DON’T: Ignore the rules of consent before and during any sexual encounter (activity related to sex including sexting/phone sex/sending of nudes, sex amid other people, usage of condoms, etc.)
DO: Ensure that sex is consensual, mutually pleasurable, and happens under no form of harm, violence, or discrimination.
DON’T: Have unprotected sex with people you meet this season without having the STI conversation to know when last they got tested, what infections they might have that you should know about (HIV, Herpes, etc.), and bringing up the need to use all forms of barrier protection (condoms, dental dams, finger cots, etc.) to minimize chances of STI transmission.
DO: Stay sexually responsible, know your STI status, get tested, start treatment for any infection, let your last/most recent sexual partners know directly or indirectly through an anonymous person to get tested because they might have been exposed to an infection, and do what’s necessary to minimize chances of STI transmission to more people. You owe the world and humanity that!
DON’T: Fake orgasms or withhold sexual needs, feelings, desires, or fantasies.
DO: Communicate with your partner(s). Discuss expectations and needs before every sexual encounter, to ensure that no one leaves with negative feelings. Discuss kinks, what you both don’t like, what you get the most pleasure from, how you want to be pleased, and how you want to be cared for after sex.
DON’T: Use saliva, baby oil, flavored lubricant, or water-based lubricants that contain glycerine as vaginal lubricants to prevent skin irritation and infections.
DO: Use personal lubricants that are water-based (glycerin-free and paraben-free) or silicone-based for self-pleasure and partnered sex. Avoid using oil-based lubricants during latex-condom usage and silicone-based lubricant when using silicone-based sex toys.
DON’T: Rush foreplay during solo sex (masturbation) or unpartnered sex.
DO: Do lots of foreplay to enhance your sexual experiences. Foreplay consists of anything and everything that gives sexual pleasure excluding the insertion of penis/strap-on/dildo in the vagina/anus. Kissing, touching, caressing, hugging, toe sucking, cunnilingus, fellatio, anilingus, fingering, use of vibrators on the clitoris/penis, nipple play, dirty, talk, etc. all count as foreplay.
DON’T: Catch feelings during a casual sexual encounter
DO: If you attach emotions/feelings to sex, you shouldn’t be having casual sex. Before you have sex with anybody, talk about what you are all looking for. Is it fun? Is it a relationship? Is it love?
If you are on the same page, go ahead and have all the fun you can have. If you are not, find someone else who is on the same page as you; or decide what’s more important to you and go with it.
DON’T: Get pregnant or impregnate anyone if you aren’t ready for pregnancy
DO: Get on a reliable contraceptive and follow the rules to use them to effectively prevent pregnancy during unprotected sex, or ‘condom breaking’ moments
DON’T: Ignore the clitoris and other erogenous zones during sex
DO: The clitoris is there for one reason: sexual pleasure. Find the clitoris, and stimulate the nerve endings in every other erogenous zone of the body (head to toe) to intensify pleasure/orgasms. The best way to know your partner’s sensitive spots is to explore their body and communicate to learn what feels good to them and what doesn’t.
DON’T: Have sex with anyone without discussing boundaries and safe words.
DO: Discuss boundaries, and set a safe word that is mentioned to halt a sexual session in times of discomfort, pain, or any other thing that might warrant the need to stop a session, including crossed boundaries.
Have the sexiest Holidays
